The very end is often the most difficult part of a break-up. There are conversations half-done. And you’re both so worn. If there are kids involved, they might be desperate for relief from the tension but scared of what that might mean as well.
Then, as you try to come to terms with what separation actually looks like in your situation, money and power issues come in to play.
‘Who leaves first’ can be a freakishly difficult issue to resolve. One part of the couple may be more determined to separate than the other. One might be a primary carer for kids and less able to move.
There may be issues about who pays the rent or mortgage.
Separating and leaving are not the same thing.If it’s too difficult to do it all at once, do one or the other first.